Choosing someone that you will spend the rest of your life with is not a decision that you should take lightly. While we all want to live a life that is designed for the rich and famous, a successful marriage should not be based on wealth. In fact, research has confirmed that many marriages that are based on wealth ends in divorce.
When you decide to get married, there are a few things that you need to take into consideration in order to live a happy married life. Your choices you make will shape your life, regardless of what type of marriage you are entering.
And so the question remains: What makes a stable marriage? And why is it important to look beyond wealth when choosing a marriage partner?
The most important decision in your life
When choosing a life partner, you are not only choosing someone that you will spend the rest of your life with, you are also choosing a parenting partner, someone that will have an impact on your children, a traveling companion, eating companion, a best friend, career adviser and much more. Therefore, it is important that you look beyond wealth when you choose your future spouse.
Homes, cars, careers will come and go. However, if you are looking to settle down, you should be considering that this decision will be forever. You should look for someone that will be there for you no matter what the situation is. And if truth be told-money can’t buy happiness.
Choose a partner that you believe is best for you
While this is a sad fact, it is also true that many people choose a marriage partner to satisfy their parents, grandparents, friends and family. Just because your mother thinks that he will make a perfect husband since he will be able to provide for you because he comes from a wealthy family, does not mean that he is a perfect choice for you. Do not enter a marriage to please someone else. Instead, choose your marriage partner because you believe he is a perfect match for you!
Understand what marriage is
If you are looking to settle down, it will be best to do a little research on what marriage really is. While in a relationship things can go smoothly, however, when you get married to your partner it will be forever, you will be living together and will be in each other’s lives every day. You need to understand what marriage entails. And if you are marrying for the wrong reasons (wealth) you will surely get a good dose of reality. Marriage does not mean getting expensive gifts daily or going on exotic vacations every weekend. It is about accepting the other person for who they are and learning to live with that for the rest of your life. It means supporting one another and to be 100% committed to your marriage and to love each other unconditionally. If you thought you will marry someone just because they are wealthy, you should think again.
Know yourself
Know what you want from life. Know what you are able to accept and what are the things that you just can’t live with. If you know who you are as a person and what you want from life, choosing a life partner won’t be such a difficult process, since you are mature enough to make the right decisions.
Understand that the only person you can change is yourself
Regardless of whether you dislike the fact that your partner sleeps with the light on, or the fact that he/she has a certain routine in the mornings, getting married will not change these little irritating habits about your partner. And if you are marrying this person because he/she is rich, all the money in the world will not change their annoying habits. You need to understand that you cannot change another person, you can either accept their “little faults” or wait patiently for your partner to change (which I doubt will happen).
Similarities are important
For many years it has been said that opposites attract. Well the question is: Does this rule apply to relationships as well? Maybe for the first few months of being in a relationship you will find this exciting about your partner, but as time passes, you will find that keeping up with the other persons hobbies and interest is just too much work. It will be useless to marry a rich guy, knowing that you do not have anything in common at all. For any marriage to be successful, married couples need to share similarities. Whether it is liking the same sport, both enjoying reading a good book, or listening to the same type of music, this will be good for your marriage as this provides you with something to do together as a couple. We are not suggesting that you go out and look for a carbon copy of yourself; however, both partners should have similar enough ideas about the way they want from life.
While wealth is an important factor to look for when choosing a marriage partner, love and marriage can make you wealthier if done right. Having the right partner by your side provides you with much more than that!
